WHY MEN CHEAT. bakit nga ba?

October 21st, 2008 by prettygail

Why Men Cheat

First of all, men don’t always cheat, but when they do, here are some possible reasons:

  1. They are not ready to have commitments.
  2. They no longer feel satisfied/stimulated in their current relationship and are too cowardly to end the relationship.
  3. They are concerned aobut their financial/living situation if they end the relationship, but do not feel fulfilled in it.
  4. They like various sex partners.
  5. They crave the initial excitement and illicitness of a “secret” affair.
  6. They need to feel desired and their partner does not fulfill that need.
  7. Men are single-minded and don’t think about the consequences of their actions.
  8. Some men cheat because they think they can get by with it.
  9. Some cheat because they don’t take their relationships seriously.
  10. Guys cheat because many of them increasingly feel powerless in a society that is giving women more rights & powers in the domestic & public spheres.
  11. Men stray outside of long-term relationships to remember what it was like to be desirable and free. “Schedules” and routine destroy self image.
  12. The woman’s sex drive isn’t what it was when you first got married.
  13. Having sex with more than one woman is an ego boost for those with low self-esteem.
  14. Men cheat because they are bored in their current relationships
  15. The man perceives that the partner is bored with or no longer interested in sex.
  16. Lack of or poor communication with the spouse/girlfriend can lead a man to cheat.
  17. other people are something new and different
  18. you have no old baggage with someone new
  19. maybe they want something with ”no strings”
  20. different people have different likes and dislikes
  21. their spouses might not be interested in doing the sexual things the men want to try out (e.g. oral, greek, 3-ways, etc.) or even afraid or morally against such kinks.

When i die….

October 19th, 2008 by prettygail

well i dont want to freak everybody out by this post but it’s fact that everyone will die one day… and when my time comes, i want this song to be played:

I WILL REMEMBER YOU

by: sarah mclachlan

I will remember you
Will you remember me?
Don’t let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories

Remember the good times that we had?
I let them slip away from us when things got bad
How clearly I first saw you smilin’ in the sun
Wanna feel your warmth upon me, I wanna be the one

I will remember you
Will you remember me?
Don’t let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories

I’m so tired but I can’t sleep
Standin’ on the edge of something much too deep
It’s funny how we feel so much but we cannot say a word
We are screaming inside, but we can’t be heard

But I will remember you
Will you remember me?
Don’t let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories

I’m so afraid to love you, but more afraid to lose
Clinging to a past that doesn’t let me choose
Once there was a darkness, deep and endless night
You gave me everything you had, oh you gave me light

And I will remember you
Will you remember me?
Don’t let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories

And I will remember you
Will you remember me?
Don’t let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories
Weep not for the memories

something to ponder..

January 12th, 2008 by prettygail

-Someday, someone will walk into your life and make you realize why it never worked out with any one else….

-I learned how to love without expecting anything in return.. for a while it felt good but soon enough, I had to stop.. why? Because the more I love the person, the more I lose myself.. and the saddest part of it all is finding myself again, when I already know that I can no longer feel ‘whole’ because a part of me went astray with the very person I love and have to forget.

-It is wiser not to expect, but to hope. For in expecting, we meet disappointments. Whereas in hoping, we invite surprises and miracles…

Shoes..

January 12th, 2008 by prettygail

My mom sent me this article a few years ago.. i just thought i might share this with you guys..

Which shoes fits yours

1. The overused shoes

When I went to

Davao

for Christmas vacation in 2001, I found what I think was the best shoes I’ve ever had. It was a blue and white slip-ons with a flower on its strap. Margay ang tatak niya. Ang tagal ko na naghanap ng blue na kikay slip-ons at doon ko lang sa Gaisano Davao nahanap iyun. And I bought the shoes for 500 lang! Feeling ko pa, suwerte ako dahil last pair na iyun. And it was my size!

Sobrang natuwa ako sa kikay kong sapatos. At napakalambot niya! I wore the shoes everyday because they would match anything… denim, slacks, capri pants, skirt, dress. Gamit ko siya in the office, at the mall, in church, even at the beach!

Dahil araw-araw ko siyang nagamit, at nasuot ko na siya sa kung saan,it was expected na wala pang isang taon ay sira na siya. Sabi ko, okay lang. May Margay naman sa Robinsons saka sa Landmark, siguro naman may ganoong style pa sila. Ngunit napuntahan ko na lahat ng display ng Margay pero wala akong nakitang katulad nang nabili ko sa

Davao

.
Nakadalawang uwi na ako sa

Davao

at pumupunta ako sa Gaisano, umaasang may makikita akong ganoon klaseng sapatos. Hindi na nga ako naghahangad ng eksaktong ganoon eh. Kahit na kamukha lang o kasing-lambot lang, okay na. Kaso wala.

Iyong kikay blue Margay na slip-ons ko — na malambot at may naka-angat na bulaklak sa strap, na bagay sa kahit anong damit ko — ay sira na ngayon. Hindi lang siya sira, nangingitim na sa dumi, at hindi na kayang i-glue ang punit na talampakan. Pero hindi ko pa siya maitapon-tapon. Hindi ko alam kung bakit. Alam ko hindi ko na siya maisusuot uli, pero may reminder naman ako na once upon a time, I had a perfect pair of shoes. Hindi ko nga lang inalagaan.

Lesson learned:

Kapag nahanap mo na ang bagay o tao na sa tingin mo ay perfect na para sa iyo, ingatan at alagaan mo. Huwag mong abusuhin. Kapag nawala sila,baka wala ka nang mahahanap na kapalit. At habambuhay mo na lang iisipin na "

sana

, inalaagaan ko siya."

2. The "maganda siya pero masakit" shoes

May fini-fit ako noon na sapatos sa Celine. Okay lang ang presyo. Maganda ang material. Kikay ang hitsura. At kapag suot ko, nakaka-sexy ng paa. May isang problema nga lang… masakit sa paa.

Pero cutie kasi siya eh. Saka on sale. At sadyang matigas ang ulo ko. Kaya ayun, binili ko.

Sa umpisa, okay lang naman. Keri ko. Saka masakit naman talaga sa paa ang bagong sapatos. Pero habang lumilipas ang oras, lalong sumasakit. Hindi siya meant sa pangmatagalang suot. Habang suot ko siya, parang gusto kong umiyak sa tuwing humahakbang ako. Pagdating ko ng bahay, puro sugat at galos ang paa ko. At ilang linggo din akong may peklat sa paa dahil sa diyaskeng sapatos na iyun.

Kapag sa umpisa pa lang, alam mo na masakit na sa paa at hindi mo puwedeng suotin ng matagalan, huwag mo nang bilhin. Bakit mo pa itutuloy kung alam mong masasaktan ka lamang kapag sinuot mo?

Parang pakikipag-relasyon din iyan eh. May mga lalake na good on paper,bagay sa iyo, tipo mo nga eh. Ang kaso, panandalian lang siya. "Boylet" lang kasi unavailable siya. Bakit mo pa itutuloy kong alam mong eventually ay masasaktan ka lang?

Sana

, habang maaga pa, iwasan mo na.

Lesson learned:

Kung sa umpisa pa lang, alam mo na masasaktan ka lamang sa bandang huli, huwag mo nang ituloy. Baka mag-iwan pa iyan ng scar na hindi mo na maaaalis kailan man.

3. The shoes that got away

May nakita akong magandang sandals sa Landmark. Mura lang, less than 500 lang siguro. Kakaiba din siya kasi hindi siya iyong style na makikita mo sa babaeng katabi mo sa MRT. Black and white siya. Polka dots ang strap niya pero hindi cheap ang dating. Ang kikay nga eh. tapos, two inches iyong heels niya. Sinukat ko minsan, ang ganda sa paa!

Kaya lang, hindi ko siya binili. Kasi, kakaiba siya eh. Mahirap hanapan ng ka-match na damit at bag. Saka kakabili ko lang kasi ng isang sandals kaya sabi ko, next pay day ko na lang bibilhin ang polka dots na sapatos na yun.

Madalas akong dumaan sa Landmark at nakikita ko ang sapatos na gusto ko bilhin pero hindi ko mabili-bili. Ilang pay day na ang dumaan pero hindi ko pa rin siya kinukuha para iuwi. Hanggang sa dumating ang oras na kailangan ko ng isang kikay na sandals na may print. Naisip ko agad ang polka-dots na matagal ko na gusto bilihin. Pero pag-punta ko sa Landmark, wala na siya doon. Naubos na. Ang ending, napabili ako ng ibang printed na sapatos na hindi ko naman talaga gusto pero wala akong choice kasi kailangan ko na nga.

Lesson learned:

Kung magpapaligaya sa atin ang isang bagay, seize the day! Sa kaka-delay, baka mawala lang sa atin ito at mauuwi tayong nagse-settle sa hindi naman talaga natin gusto. Mas mahirap pagsisihan ang mga bagay na hindi mo ginawa. Wala na yatang mas masakit pa sa thought na abot-kamay mo na lang, pero pinalampas mo pa.

Sino ba naman mag-aakalang may mapupulot pala akong leksyon sa mga sapatos? Kaya nga panay bili ko eh, para mas marami pa akong matutunan. Sa susunod, I will find lessons from bags naman para ma-justify din kung bakit sandamakmak ang bags ko.

- anonymous -

January 12th, 2008 by prettygail

barkada + alak muna bago ang lahat. suck it. live it. get use to it.

2008

January 4th, 2008 by prettygail

This coming year, i hope to become a better person..

TRY TO SEE THE GOODNESS IN EVERYONE… JUST LOVE THE PEOPLE WHO HATE ME, AS WELL AS THE INSIGNIFICANT PEOPLE WHOM I REGARD AS NOT WORTH LOVING / LIKING BEFORE… (EVERYONE AND EVERYTHING HAS A PURPOSE FOR BEING ANYWAY)

** I GOTTA RELEASE ALL THE NEGATIVE VIBES IN ME, (THOUGH I WASNT ABLE TO START THE YEAR RIGHT..) I SHOULDN’T STRESS MYSELF WITH THE THINGS NOT WORTH STRESSING ABOUT.

C’EST LA VIE

March 12th, 2007 by prettygail

People come in & out of our lives for a purpose & it’s our responsibility to know that coz either way, we learn from them. People may come & go, but no matter how sad & hurting we are, life MUST go on. The world will never stop for our grief. Consider it a lesson. Be optimistic. Move forward. Even though at first we tend to hold on coz our whole life’s happiness is wrapped up in that person. But remember, TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS. One morning, we’ll wake up & realize that we’re not hurting anymore.. Once again, we’ll learn how to smile.. as they say, happiness is the most natural thing in world… All of these will happen in God’s time. no need to hurry it. When that day comes, it’ll be a new beginning for us. Time to rearrange our lives, to correct our mistakes & focus on the more important things & persons in our lives.. Learn to forgive so that we wouldn’t be looking back with such hate, remorse & resentment. Free your spirit. Lift everything up to God. Every happiness & every pain that we felt is part of God’s plan for us.We have no right to question Him. His will be done!

I thought love can melt away the pain no matter how hurting I am, but I have also learned pain can melt away love no matter how great it is…

PROUD THOMASIAN!

October 2nd, 2006 by prettygail

My God! The championship game was nerve-wrecking! good thing we were able to get tickets. upper b nga lang. hehe.. grabe, after a decade.. ngayon lang ulit nag champion ang UST! as one of the banners there says.. "RELIVE ‘96 AT SEASON 69"

CONGRATULATIONS UST GROWLING TIGERS!

September 27th, 2005 by prettygail

I’ve learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I’ve learned that just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.

-=Goodbye..=-

August 24th, 2005 by prettygail

Image828Image830My caramel just passed away.. She died this afternoon at around 11:30 am. i feel so bad… she was confined in the vet clinic for 2 days. the doctor said she has a UTI. She had hard time eating so nilagyan sya ng dextrose ng doctor.. wawa naman. i could just imagine the pain she went through.. at least she’s not suffering anymore.. grabe, i’m gonna miss my baby.. =’(